“Forgiveness is letting go of the idea that the past can be anything different.”
Last post, I set the stage for approaching health and wellness as a mind game instead of a lack of nutrition or physical activity education. If I was a betting gal, I’d say you are educated above your own level of obedience when it comes to fitness. Most of us know better, but obviously lack the doing better. But I am here to help bridge the gap between knowing and doing by focusing on the mind. But before anyone can move forward, we must start with forgiveness.
What does forgiveness have to do with fitness? This is a gym for Pete’s sake, why am I trying to get all personal with you? Because I dig past the plate into the deeper causes of your weight struggles. It’s what I do best.
Forgiveness actually has a lot to do with our current well-being. Whether you over eat or restrict food to an unhealthy extent the problem is the same, you are nurturing deep seeded pain. Often efforts to gain control of your negative relationship with food end up in failure which leads you to hold on to self-anger, resentment, and disappointment. These emotional struggles hold you back in a destructive pattern. By embracing self-forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.
Consider how self-forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.
There are three people that you should consider forgiving, today. Find a piece of scratch paper, jot down the age you were the most unfit and in the best shape of your life. Pause and reflect on who you were then, past or present. Now note your goal weight, pants size, or other numerical reference point that would make you feel validated once achieved. Remember, be honest, no one sees this but you.
Take a hard look at your records and make a conscious decision to forgive yourself. Forgive the unfit you (past or present) for letting yourself down, for not being strong enough to take control of your health, for repeatedly giving into temptations, and in your mind, not being good enough. If the fit you is a faint memory of your past, forgive them for not sticking with it and being strong enough to withstand the pressure of life. Finally, no matter where you are on your wellness journey, forgive the future you for the mistakes that are inevitable. Go ahead and make a mends that success isn’t perfection it is consistency, and when you slip off track you have already decided to slide right back on.
Forgiving yourself may seem silly, but it is not, it is vital to your overall well-being. True forgiveness is giving up the idea the past can be different and approaching each day as a fresh start. Let’s mark this milestone in thinking with a huge X on all three as a symbol of forgiveness and that they don’t dictate the future of your fitness.
Rebecca Turner is a registered dietitian, certified specialist in sports dietetics and author of "Mind Over Fork." Sign up for a private consult: firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow her on Facebook and Instagram @RebeccaTurnerNutrition.